Going to share this with some colleagues. Very powerful!!!! |
Posted by: Deb 4/27/2006 12:55:08 PM
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It seems that when people discuss grief the focus is on death. I was surprised by grief after my divorce--even though I was in an abusive relationship for over 14 years. Perhaps the focus now needs to shift to other losses . . . |
Posted by: difficult patient 5/2/2006 7:54:47 AM
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That's a really good point. Discussions on grief do focus very prominently on death, but there are other losses and circumstances that can be causes of grief--often intense grief. Truly, any mental anguish is defined as grief. I guess I would say, that if anything, the deployment of this word is merely a matter of semantics. Grief, depression, sadness, anguish, melancholy: these are all words that can mean virtually the same thing. As Alex demonstrates, it's how we handle these emotions that define us. |
Posted by: Jon 5/2/2006 10:06:56 AM
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Absolutely beautiful film, so very very poignant. When you take care someone's partner in the ER, you don't always have the opportunity to see, or know them as they are in their "regular lives". This will help me remember there is a history behind that relationship and that the partner/spouse also needs support while the patient is going through their illness.Bailar es vivir! How true!Thanks for sharing the video. |
Posted by: Kim McAllister 5/4/2006 4:02:07 AM
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Hi, Looking at tis on paper I can see the answer should be black and white. But when you feel you care for someone and love the life you are creating and the person you are sharing with actions are someties not so easy to follow through.For anyone who has gone through this or has been on one side or the other I would aprreciate some help with this matter please, any feed back would be greatly appreciated.Last November my partners wife committed suicide. we met in Jan. and began dating in Feb. By Mar he wanted to get married and share this with his family. I suggested we tell them in April we were dating and give them time to adjust. He is 55 I am 45. We both have 2 kids in their 20's. His kids were shocked and devastated. We still as of almost July have not met or spoken. My kids are fine with it. I am living with him amd we have made wedding plans forlater this year. His friends and my friends are in support. The problem is....He is hesitating on giving my an engagement ring until he tells his kids, he feels they are not ready to hear about it, he wanted to move his wife's tings out of the bedroom months ago but his daughter said she was not wanting to do that so he is waiting for her to be ready. So all her personal belongings are still in our bedroom (which seems like their bedroom) and the other day he referred to his late spouse to my former husbad and my children, as his wife.Now I get it that this has been fast, but I feel like he is in denial about being engaged more or less to another woman. I feel like cold water has beed thrown on my face and woken me upo to the fact that he is still in deep mourning and I have no business in that house nor has he any business asking someone to marry him when his heart is not totally in it. I know he cares about me nad loves me a great deal...and I think he just doesnt want to be alone. I dont want to be a crutch. Move? Stick it out? Thanks for your help, Laurell |
Posted by: laurell 6/21/2007 7:45:18 AM
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